Reaching the point in your relationship where you decide that it’s time to take your first trip together is a wonderful milestone. However, no matter how much time you have spent together prior to your first vacation and no matter how well you get on, being in such close proximity for an extended period of time can cast light on issues that had previously gone unnoticed. For tips on how to travel as a couple and still stay sane, consider the following.
Decide what you want to get out of the trip
Before you set off, make sure you both have a trip that’s catered to the both of you. For instance, if you want to visit and explore the Bryce Canyon, but the other also wants a sense of luxury, compromise and look for a luxurious Bryce Canyon hotel that provides hiking trails and other fun activities.
By discussing want you want from the trip and the activities you are most looking forward to at the destination well in advance, it will be far easier to reach a compromise where you each get to do a little of what you like best. This is a trip for both of you, so make sure you remember that.
Don’t forget to talk about money
It’s likely that you’ll be splitting the cost of flights, a hotel and other major expenses in connection with your trip, but if one of you earns more than the other, you might find yourselves disagreeing about where to eat or what excursions you want to take part in. Having an honest and frank discussion about the level of spending you will be comfortable with during the trip can avoid any fallout.
Give each other plenty of space
Don’t feel you have to spend every single waking moment together, especially if you have different interests. One of the great things about taking an hour or two to do some exploring on your own is that when you reunite, you can share the adventures you just had.
If you have an idea about the kind of situations and triggers that sometimes stress you out and you don’t want your partner to see you in that particular light, taking a little time to yourself can also be a great way of cooling off, especially if your partner fully understands the reasons behind you needing a little “me” time.
Take your time
In the excitement of your first trip together, it can be tempting to try to pack as much in as possible, especially if the trip is a distant or an expensive one that has taken some time to save for.
The more you try to do, the more exhausted you are likely to be, and this in itself can raise the levels of tension between you. A far better strategy is to do less and enjoy it more. After all, the real purpose of the trip is for the two of you to get to know one another in a whole new way.