Around 4 years ago I had an accident when I was playing rugby which left me severely challenged when it comes to mobility. I still have the use of my legs but the damage has meant that I am not strong on my feet and I require the use of many aids. This has been the hardest challenge that I have ever faced and whilst I have recovered some of my mobility, I know that it will never return to how it once was.
I wanted therefore to offer some tips to anyone who is going through a similar situation in the hope that my experience is able to help you.
The hardest thing to do, but the most beneficial thing that you can do, is to accept what has happened and start to adapt. For me, I spent a long time in denial about my injury and just assumed thane day it would all go back to normal, I now know that this will never happen. The first few weeks will be a shock to you and likely be a bit of a blur but once you get back home and start coming to terms with it, the faster that you accept your limitations, the better things will become. This is not to say that you should accept it if the doctors tell you that you have a chance, if this is the case then you should work tirelessly, if the damage has been done however, accept it and move on.
I never wanted to use any aids in helping me around the house or outdoors as I thought that once I started doing so, I would be giving up. The truth is that I actually caused myself more damage through my resistance as I was putting a great deal of unnecessary pressure on my body. There is so much out there to help you get around more easily and help you out with everyday tasks. I myself have a mobility scooter, a walk-in bath tub and rails around the home so that I can get around a lot more easily. If you have had an issue which has caused mobility problems, don’t wait, get these aids as soon as you can to avoid causing further damage.
When my accident happened, I shunned everyone and really shut myself away, refusing any offers of help in any way. I realize now that whilst this was simply the way that I was dealing with things, it wasn’t the right way to go about it and the people who were trying to help me, were the people that I loved and the people who loved me. As hard as it may be to swallow your pride, if people offer to help you, it is because they care, not because they pity you and I would recommend that you take everyone up on their offers. The only way that you get through something like this is with the support of friends and family around you.